Relationships are hard.
They take work.
Let's just get that fact out of the way. Sometimes I wonder how two people come together and manage to agree on anything. After all, each comes to the table with different upbringings, beliefs, cultural values, sexual experiences, wounds and losses, and more. Not to mention the entire complicated system that becomes part of your relationship -- children, co-workers, clergy, friends, parents, and nutty Uncle Bill. It can be like bringing two different countries together!
Take a deep breath. You are not alone. We all think the neighbors have it figured out and that there must be something wrong with US, right? Well, guess what? Their relationship that looks picture-perfect has hit some of the same snags as yours. No one is immune.
Don't wait six years.
Get a check-up.
Dr. John Gottman, known as the father of modern couples therapy, says that couples wait to try counseling, on average, six years after they begin having problems. And most families never even consider the idea of family therapy.
Visit me for a couples or family "check-up." For couples, I have some quick and specific assessment tools that can help us hone in on specific issues on which we can work. Or bring in the entire family to see if there is room for improvement with parenting, communication and more. I love children and have experience working with kids, families and individuals. Click here for a list of my specialties.
There is HOPE. A lot of it.
Modern psychologists and researchers like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Mona DeKoven Fishbane have built on the solid foundations of their forefathers/mothers and have developed NEW, research-based, neuroscience-based theories and concepts that can help you, your partner, and your families better understand each other's brains.
If you’re struggling with a mental or emotional problem, getting into trouble with drugs or alcohol, having family or relationship problems, or problems at work or school, call Colorado Crisis Line at 1-844-493-TALK (8255) for free, confidential guidance and support. Visit http://coloradocrisisservices.org/